When we disappoint ourselves, or we have trouble making change, building a habit or taking action, I think it might be because we don’t know what we’re doing.
Any nugget of inspiration from Fear.less or wherever is a meme. If an uplifting quote really gets to you, you can tell your friends about it. You can put it on a bumper sticker. You can mark the date you first saw it in the calendar as “the day everything changed”. None of these amount to actual absorption and understanding of a truth. You “know” it, but you don’t know it. I “know” way more about fear than the average person because of my work with Fear.less, but I truly know a pretty normal amount. Maybe less.
If we truly realized the veracity of an oft-repeated mantra, we wouldn’t waver in our resolve to live by it. Can true realization be cultivated? I think so. Ask yourself:
-How many miles must you run before you Truly Realize that exercise reduces stress, even though you’re tired at the end?
-How many public acts of wackiness must you perform before you Truly Realize that most of the world is refreshingly indifferent?
-How much fun must you allow yourself to have before you Truly Realize that pleasure needs to be a part of your lifestyle?
-How many people must you enrich or help before you Truly Realize that your presence on this earth is a net positive?
-How many times must you feel whole after doing just as you please before you Truly Realize the idiosyncratic way of living that is best for you?
Maybe true realization is not possible, at least not for everything. Ishita ends most contributor interviews by asking what they know to be true now that they merely believed it before, and everyone has an answer, so it must be possible for at least one thing. As for the rest, maybe doubt will always creep in. Okay. But we can get pretty close. We can work ourselves toward a certain degree of confidence that allows us to function at a high level.
An added motivation for me to do any particular thing is the journey toward True Knowledge. At some point, if I do something enough, I will either realize yes or no. This is a good idea, or it’s not. At least I’ll know.
What have you truly realized?